Bereavement Q&A – practical solutions to common problems

Hi. Can someone please tell me where this is being held? Thanks. If I cannot attend, can I receive answers to questions I post... Lost my friend to cancer may 2014. Thanks x

Hi Jazzy,
The Q&A is being held here on this thread. Just post any questions you have below.
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Michael

this is a great idea.  I cannot be around for this session but I'm sure further sessions will be arranged.

Regards

Siobhan

Hi Siobhan,
I hope that the session is useful and we'll definitely want to run more if it's a success. Please do leave any questions in advance below (or you can email them in to community@macmillan.org.uk).

Thanks Carol,
That's a good question.
Sorry you can't make the Q&A - you'll be able to read it here (and we'll publish a transcript as soon as possible afterwards too)

I have a similar issue with waking up at around 4am...but I think I know why - that is the time I got the phone call from the hospital to say 'you better come now'......is there anything I can do to break this habit...it does seem to be getting better (slowly...)

I'm not sure if I'll be there on the day but I'd like to know what you can do about flashbacks to the stays in the hospital and all the awful things that happened in hospital especially the last days.  I don't get these all the time but I am still plagued by them and it has got worse again recently.

Also, how do you focus on the positive memories and the happy times without drifting back to the sad ones, and how do you remember the happy times without feeling sad because it's all in the past now?  The last months and the illness still seem to take precedence in my thoughts.

By the way I've had counselling and it was ok but it hasn't sorted this out.

Thank you so much

Eva

Some good questions, thanks for posting them.

If you have any questions for questions for Erin and Kirsten, then please leave them in the comments below.

I have the same problem as Eva. Flashbacks to the awful days. Sleeplessness and not being able to get to sleep due to re-playing final few weeks, wishing I had pushed my husband to seek medical help sooner, etc. I have had no counselling as yet but hope to soon.