Online dating

Hi Lexis

This isnt an area Ive stepped into, (8 months since my husband died), but going on a dating site isnt shameful, nor do you have anything to feel guilty about. Many widowed people do go on to meet and even marry again. But youve said you are really wanting company rather than loooking for a relationship?

I wonder if you have connected with any groups in your local area where you may meet new people?  Im trying to do that, but sometimes its just so overwheling as Im not really a social person and dont like big groups.

I also wonder if you have come across WayUp? Its a site for people who have lost their partners, and they do online and actual meet ups, sadly none local to me, but there are in other parts of the country.

Ive just read a bok by Sandra Manning called The funny thing about being a widow. She uses humour as her coping mechanism but she covers dating sites so much that she wrote a second book just about that. It is written from a widows point of view though. 

Do chat here, we are a decent bunch where you can say things without judgement. 

Hi Lexis

I am coming up to 3 years since I lost my husband and this is something I have never considered. But each to their own if that is something they want to try. I daresay there are a lot of legitimate dating sites out there but with internet security its for this reason alone I have never considered it. Scammers are so good at online hacking etc and being on my own I find myself quite vulnerable. I'm not looking for anyone either and just quite happy plodding along on my own I've become quite happy with my own company and starting to quite like doing what I want when I want with no one to answer to. Wishing my hubby was still here of course its a shock to the system after someone who was by your side for 40 years is no longer there. Doing things like this visiting forums and just speaking with people and relating to issues keeps me happy and being a little further on on my grief journey means that I can try and offer some support to new members joining here. Best wishes to you.

Vicky

Thank you so much for your reply. I really do appreciate your taking the time and trouble to contact me and I will think carefully about what you say.

Thank you very much for contacting me. I do so appreciate your time and trouble. I understand what you say and I think you are entirely right about Internet scammers. The world we live in is unfortunately fixated upon money and the online dating sites exploit this. Best wishes to you

You are very welcome Lexis. Yes the internet is a great invention but has its drawbacks as well in things like what are being discussed. Scammers are so sophisticated these days sometimes it is hard to say what is real and what is AI. I have been scammed out of money in the last couple of years from what I thought was my phone company querying a bill it looked so genuine but found out it was a scam but luckily I got my money back. I felt quite stupid after it because I am usually very careful with these things but there you go can happen to anyone. I wish you well. Take Care.

Vicky.