I lost my Nick 24 weeks ago, 6 months, I can't believe it really. I still feel so heartbroken and I feel like it just happened. I don't think I'm doing well at all.
I'm trying to keep up with all the financial things and this week I remembered it would've been Nick's mum's birthday so I contacted a cousin of Nick's to say if possible would she be able to put some flowers for Nick. She kindly said she would and sent me a picture today. I'm very grateful to her.
None of Nick's family talks to me since he passed. His dad didn't come to the funeral directors and when he did come to the house about 10 days later he stormed out as I wouldn't let him search my loft. He threw the Eulogy at me and said I could burn it if I liked. None of them spoke to me at the funeral.
The thing is that on the picture his cousin sent me I can see that Nicks name has been added to the stone underneath his mum's name. Its covered up strategically but its got his birth year on it.
I understand everyone can do whatever memorial they like - Nick wanted a tree dedicated to him for example. But just a note to say they'd done it would've been nice.
Am I being horrible to think they could've said something?
They sound really horrible people, lacking dignity and empathy. I am sorry you have had to put up with their behaviour. I had the situation where nieces, sister-in-law, didn’t visit once or call. I was disgusted, as we had supported them through my husband’s brother dying. It was shocking, as I could see my Paul was really upset by it. Too little, too late. They came to the funeral, but not the wake. They scuttled off as soon as possible. Let’s just say, I am not interested in staying in touch. Kate.xxx
I honestly don't understand why people are so horrible. Sorry you had to go through that. This is the thing, people don't seem to realise if they could just spend some time, say they're sorry, it might not solve it, far from it but it wouldn't sting as much. There's no way I'd forgive Nick's family but if they just said we've done this for Nick, here's a picture. I don't know why I expect such kindness from them though, they've not shown it before
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