Hi there
I lost my husband 2 weeks ago and seems to be coping ok, too well, I don't think it's hit me and that's what scares me. He had cancer for 2 years and for the most part we knew there was nothing that could be done, I was scared every day for him and I grieved every day and night for what was to come and how the end would be, it was peaceful and perfect if that's ok to say. We were together 53 years but I haven't cried, I am frightened that i feel relief because that would be selfish but after seeing him decline so much I feel relief for him and that would be ok wouldn't it? I have a large loving family and they are telling they are proud of how I'm doing, but I feel guilty, is any of this common, thank you xx
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