Back after a while due to bad news

Hello Delboy!

Sorry to hear your news. I have something similar going on. My next door neighbour who have lived here for quite a few years was also diagnosed with stage 3 bladder cancer last year. They took him in and cut out the tumour but said he would need to begin immunotherapy. He started this back in January this year I think it was but he took a very bad reaction to it and was admitted to hospital sometime in February and is still there. I don't like to keep asking his wife as I know it will be anxious time for her and the family and it is all so triggering again for me for what I went through with Jay (my late husband) my neighbour is a lot younger than Jay was though and he said when I spoke to them there were possibilities that his was treatable but still worrying at the same time. He's a lovely chap and have known him and his wife and daughters for so long as you say `Life is a bitch` sometimes to the ones who don't deserve it. Take Care. 

Vicky.

Hello Vicky/PattyK,

Sorry to hear about your neighbour. I hope he pulls through. I bumped into an old work colleague this afternoon who I hadn't seen for about 2+ years. He said his wife died from cancer about a year ago. I gave him my sympathy and we chatted for a few minutes about what we have been through.

I will find out more about my daughter-in-law in a week or so, as she has gone on a cruise with her brother, a memorial cruise in memory of their father who died just over a year ago. My son is away on business in Prague, so couldn't make it. She deserves that cruise.

Best wishes,

Derek

Makes you wonder what we are doing so wrong. . So many people getting ill with cancer. Apparently it is in our bodies and something triggers it. Stress  I think plays a big part. Something in the water ,food ,Environment. I wonder is it more prevalent now or has it just gone undetected many years ago. It's worse when Children have it. I supported fundraising for a little girl who had Neuroblastoma. Poor love . The first tumour was found at 1 year old . She suffered for 6 years until dying at 7 year old. That's Bloo&y cruel. She was so very brave. And how the family coped I just don't know. 

Yes I get that Bretton it is worse when children get it and as you say you do just wonder how there are so many people getting cancer these days or maybe it is something that we are all just so used to hearing now because we have all been through it some way or another either ourselves or loved ones.That poor wee soul seven years old she hardly had a life poor family.  I was at the hospital today with my sister for her breast cancer check up. She had breast cancer 7 years ago just before Jay got his bowel cancer she has had bowel cancer too and just got diagnosed with that 2 months just after Jay passed- the irony! but anyway her specialist today said she is very pleased with her progress and doesn't need to see her again for another year so that was a bit of good news. She has to see her bowel cancer specialist next month and ironically the specialist who sees her for that was the same one that saw Jay and operated on him. Everything is a wee bitty triggering just now for me as I posted about my neighbour and still going through it with my sister be it in a good way with her though. She's just waiting on heart valve surgery now but that's not happening for her anytime soon seemingly. It'll happen when it does. 

Hi Derek!

Thanks yes everything is a bit triggering for me just now as I said with my neighbour being ill and I was at the hospital with my older sister today for her check up. She got breast cancer 7 years ago but it was caught early and they were able to treat it. Her specialist is very pleased with her progress and she doesn't have to see her again for another year. She got bowel cancer as well almost 3 years ago just two months after Jay passed but that was caught early as well and they were able to treat that as well and she just goes for check ups for that too now. She sees her bowel cancer specialist for a check up next month and the irony there is that the specialist she sees for that treated Jay and carried out his operation first time round. Hope your daughter in law enjoys her cruise. Take Care. 

Vicky. 

My nephew died of leukaemia at age 10, and yes its really sh*t. My sil is the one person I can really talk to openly about how tough it is. She talks about things she still cant do after 30 years like hear certain pieces of music.  

We know that cancer is no respector of age, wealth, ethnicity etc, and how many of us have talked about our partners being fit and healthy before cancer.

I guess cancer was so undiagnosed in the past. My husband had no symptoms, it was only a routine scan for something else that found it. 

The minute they mention CT Scans or blood tests now I just go to pieces because I now know that that is when they `find things`. I have very small benign cysts on my kidneys due to a genetic disorder I have they are nothing to be concerned about but they can enlarge and bleed but touch wood I'm ok there. But I get scans every few years just to keep an eye on them  I usually get an ultrasound scan for those but last time they sent me for an MRI and I panicked and wondered why they wanted to do that instead of the ultrasound. Having been having to attend CTs MrI scans etc with Jay over the two years he was fighting his cancer I think it has got me that way as it probably has for others here too. The MRI turned out to be ok though and the reason they sent me for that they said is just that they can get a clearer readout with MRI. Strange how these things eventually get to you.

xx