Grieving.

Hi merse, I am sorry to read about your wife, and so recently too. There are quite a few of us here and we try to support each because we understand. 

Do you have your boys with or near you at the moment?  Please dont feel you have to be strong for them, its Ok to not be strong, its ok for them to see you cry and to cry together. 

I lost my husband in October so I am still reeling from his death, paperwork, Christmas, mussing him and feeling that half of me is missing.

Keep talking, it does help.

Hi, I am sorry you are now on this crap path. I lost my wife in January.  Its very early in your grief, your emotions are going to be all over the place. At the moment just remember the basics, trust me I know it's hard.  Eat  try and sleep and drink liquid if you are crying a lot you will be dehydrated.  I know they may sound impossible but you have to try. If you are up to it keep clean. It's just go by minute to minute,  then hopefully 10 minutes to 10 minutes, hour to hour. Don't be bullied into how you should feel, this is your journey and you have to do what is right for you.  We are all different, so we grieve differently. What might work for one ,might not work for the next. Just take care and please look after yourself. If you have support please use it. 

Hi Malengwa

Thank you for your reply. I am sorry for your loss i am sure you know exactly how I am feeling.

I feel that i am missing a large piece of me but she will walk in the door but I know tbis is tne rest of my life.

I havw slept about an hour a night for tbe past 5 weeks and now she has gone I cant sleep at all.

I have never experienced pain like tbis. I must be strong for our sons who have seen me cry we have cried together and its going to be hard tomorrow christmas day

Merse

Hello Merse1806f95263,

So sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. It is such a tough journey dealing with grief for the loss of our loved ones. We all deal with our loss and grief differently and you must do what feels right for you. I am now just over 4 years into this "journey", and the loss I feel seems as strong as ever but I feel I have become better at dealing with the emotions I feel. I still have tearful moments from time to time, but I also have lots of happy memories like photographs. I never shy away from mentioning my late wife, Lin, as she is still part of my life in thoughts, and in photographs and mementos around the house. I will often talk to her photo about life past and present, and that feels therapeutic in a way. My heart still feels broken but that is the price of love.

Take little steps at a time and always be honest about how you feel. And never apologise for feeling sad or down.

Take care.

Derek

Delboy 55

Thank you for your reply. I know this road will be long and I may see a time when I can accept certain parts of her not being around.

Currently I cannot walk her side if the bed open her phine or even look at pictures as I cry constantly. I registered her death yesterday a mess all the way through shaking and crying however I know legal things start now. I have to try to move forward.

I am sad list and heartbroken and need time to organise myself.

Thank you 

Merse