Hi all I lost my partner this year 2025 on Valentines day. I have just been going through the motions. Smiling and waving at people I know. Telling the neighbours I'm ok when I'm not. Rest of the time myself and my 2 cats just chill at home in my little one bedroommed bungalow. Can't seem to drag myself out of this daze, every step I take feels like I'm wading through mud.
Not looking forward to Christmas at all anyone else on here feeling the same
I get you as all the others here will too. I am approaching my 3rd Christmas without Jay (my late husband). He passed in June 2023 from bowel cancer. My first two came and went without me actually feeling anything but this year I am just not feeling it at all. This year I seem to miss him more than ever. Ironically our son got married Valentines weekend (15th February) this year the time you lost your partner. He and his now wife had been together for 10 years and decided to mark it with getting married something Jay hoped he would see. He fought it for two years getting his initial surgery to remove the tumour in January 2022 and to be told after it they had got it all and he was in remission but, cruelly it came back for him 5 months later and wasn't leaving without him a 2nd time. My 2nd little granddaughter arrived in October this year also so a few big life events he's not been here to see and I think this is why I have been feeling his loss that bit more this year. Our first little granddaughter he only saw the first two years of her life and she started primary school this year something Jay was also determined to see but not the case again. Just keep coming here as we all have a tale to tell about our horrible bereavement journeys and as I said we all `get it` and you will be able to relate to posts from others here with what you are going through. My best wishes to you.
Hi lynandy. Im sorry to read about your partner. Yes there are many of us here, some of us also dreading Christmas. My husband died in October and I am still reeling even though we knew it was coming.
Im learning to tell people Im not ok, and I cry a lot. We support each other here as we all understand what its like to have our world ripped apart.
Do you have any kind of bereavement support where you live?
