Anniversary

Christmas brings up such emotions doesnt it, more so if he died at Christmas and Im sorry that this will be such a difficult year for you, unless you hide, you cant avoid it. 

Im only 6 weeks in to widowhood and somehow we always knew last year would be his last.  We always have my daughter and family here so we are going to do rhe same, no tree or decorations, just us, and try and have some fun because thats what Tony would want. I expect it to be hard, but we will try.

Can you go to your mum and step away if it gets too much for you? Can you turn your phone off so that you arent anxoous every time you hear it ping.

A big virtual hug coming your way. Xx

I'm so sorry you are now in this shit club. I'm not putting tree up just can't be bothered with it all  and thought of sitting at my mums without him fills me with dread. My little nephew said about letting balloons off which was a lovely thought. Yes I did think have food then just come home I know my kids don't want me on my own but sometimes I just need that. Thank you for your kind words . Hugs back to you to x

I know what you mean. Last year was the first year without my darling, and I couldn’t face it at home. I went to Lanzarote for 5 days with our two adult children. It did help, although I think I was in some sort of trance as I was only 4 months into the loss. You could always have a duvet day, and turn your phone off. The main thing, is not to be pressured into doing something that you don’t want to do. Sending hugs, Kate. Xxx

I'm going into my second year of my partner passing 7th January.  I feel I can relate where it comes to keeping the kids happy on the day.  And the anticipation of people sending messages of condolence or worse a facebook post - but you don't necessarily know what day/time those messages are going to hit.  My late husband also had a December birthday so it's kind of a double whammy.  I don't know if this is right or wrong but my plan is to put on a brave face for the people who aren't as close to me and tell them it's OK I'm OK and thanks and remember that it is OK to take myself off and have a little cry if I need to.  

My partner birthday 2 Jan so had to deal with that virtually straight after last year. I'm actually going to a bereavement Councillor tomorrow,  not sure if it's the right thing as thought of actually talking about it again will send me over the edge but got nothing to lose really.  Went out with our friends who are couples on Saturday but so so hard when mine should be with us. I was crying before I even went. Thank you for your words hugs to you to x

I said to my son might drive up the coast xmas day and watch the daft buggers swim in the sea, even thought should I for something completely random and stupid. Yes turning phone off might be a good idea really plus I don't want messages from people who haven't give a shit all year and asked how I'm coping. Sending hugs back to you x

I am going into my 3rd Christmas without my husband (he passed from bowel cancer in June 2023). My first Christmas without him came and went in a blur and as you say Heartbreak the first year does actually fly by. I think because you're just coming to terms with your other half not being there the first one and you still expect them to walk through the door think you're still on `autopilot` sort of. For the last two Christmases I have gone to my son's house with my sister. This year feels so much harder for some reason though. I have really felt his loss this year. I am just about 2 and half years in from losing him so much has happened this year which I think magnifies his loss more. My son got married in February this year and my 2nd grandchild was born last month (October) so these have been big life events he should be here to share with but he's not. I am sure though you will find your own way to get through Christmas and I wish you well in whatever way you decide to mark it. Take Care. 

Vicky x