Councilling

Hi Heartbreak,

For me counselling worked, but it doesn't work for everyone. I found it a safe space to talk honestly about that night and what happened. I made her cry, which made me feel bad, I just told her my story I didn't do it on purpose. It finished natural after about 10 weeks, but I have been told I might need to go back due to ptsd. If you think you need it give it a go. It is not a magic bullet,  but it might help.

Hi I am having weekly calls they are helping me and I’ve realised when I don’t have one ie if counsellor away etc I miss it. I am needing them I know I spend most of the time crying through my 50 min session but all that is fine. They will listen to you and try to help you adapt and adjust to your new circumstances.  Mine has introduced breathing other exercises to help me. She knows I have great difficulty in being able to switch off.  Everything weird you think you are doing or saying or feeling is grief sadly it cracks you up. But it is normal. I can tell her how I’m feeling what I’ve been up to even the bad things that you can’t tell others or don’t want to tell. I appreciate and am lucky I have someone at the end of the line who is willing and trying and encouraging to help me and is. 

I have on the other hand been to two bereavement sessions over the last few months and found it’s not for me coffee and chat at least at the moment. I am though sadly and slowly building a new life which was nothing I would have ever expected to have done after the death of my husband …it’s just happening and I’ve now only got myself to blame your own your own and it’s absolutely crap not having your loveD ones here anymore.

i would do everything with my husband and now every single thing is without him. 

hope you get some help soon x