So my sons girlfriend has asked if I would like to go to 12 week baby scan at our local hospital. Although my partner didn't pass away in hospital he spent 3 weeks there leading up to it and I haven't been back since. I don't want to miss this beautiful occasion (and sad as my partner not here to be grandad) but my chest feels tight and I can feel myself wanting to cry the thought of having to go in the carpark let alone the hospital. How do I deal with this?
It is all so very difficult. It sounds a bit like a panic attack. If you decide you do want to go, I would probably play that incredibly difficult time through my head at home. This means you can cry as much as you like in privacy. I suppose it is a type of exposure therapy. I have used this technique many times over the past 14 months and it did help. Sending you strength and hugs.
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