Computer systems DWP, council tax phone calls letters…. All so draining on top of what we’re going through

Yes, same here. 
We discussed the packages and Valen removed Sports, but suggested I keep the rest. 
But I’ve probably watched a Sky movie 3 times in the last 8 months, so may get that off. 
I’ve avoided making these package changes as I’m not sure where all the info is, passwords etc and just cant face the merry go round of “No, you can’t speak to him. I’ve already told you he passed away”. 
Im pretty sure they will say cancel the existing and set up a new one in my name. Again, can’t face this yet.

It just re-enforces the loss. I can only deal with small batches of admin. I have felt low today. I can’t stop thinking about my darling, Paul. He was such a lovely man, and I miss him so much. Kate. Xxx

I did all that too. Changed over to SKy Q while Jay was ill. Got the multi-room package (an extra box in another room) so he could watch all his programmes as he became bedridden. I got the package reduced to the bare minimum though as a lot of programmes I don't watch Sky just never let you reduce individual channels and its a package so if you say you don't want a specific channel it may mean you lose something else you may watch if the channel is in that package. I still have the multi-room subscription because my sister comes and stays with me periodically and she is a quiz show fanatic so when she stays here she goes into the spare room to watch her quiz channels. Yes the funds reduce drastically don't they when your spouse goes. I am getting by ok though but just `comfortably` utilies get paid that's the main thing and I now get help with the council tax. My utilities have reduced as it's just me and I don't burn up a lot of electricity or gas for cooking. I invested in an air fryer a couple of months back just a single one for 1-2 people and that's a handy little gadget still use the electric over and the gas hob only now and again. Still have the landline phone because I need it for my sister she does have a mobile but very seldom uses it and although its easy to use for her its fiddly and she feels better using the landline phone. we all get there in the end. Take Care Everyone

Vicky 

MrsVT 

If you start by saying what you are phoning for and tell them you have experienced a bereavement and who has passed it gets it out the way. Then hopefully they will go through the `so sorry` and sending you condolences and then you can move forward telling them what you want to deal with and if it is to tell them about a bereavement then they should know. When I was changing the car insurance into my name they said beccause the policy was half way through when he passed that I was covered to run it on the present policy and once renewal came around I could change it to my name. Yes I agree a lot of `ho-ha` and to;ing and fro'ng. and just about everything needs a copy of the death certificate to make sure you have plenty of those. They will send you them back. Good luck with everything.

Vicky x

I think you are amazing to have such energy! I'm finding it harder to do what I need to do, even gardening ...

Everything is an effort for me just now even the simplest of tasks. I know what it is though it's just `this month`. This coming Saturday (21st) would have been our wedding anniversary (longest day of all days) and then 2 days later he passed. I'm hoping in the next week or so everything will settle again. Take Care everyone. 

Vicky x

Hi everyone it was SIMONS direct cremation today i realized today he's not coming home knowing he was at the funeral parlour just made me know he was close by now that is the end my thoughts were back at the hospice and the horrific week before the suffering he went through at 58years old we should be planning holiday being with the grandchildren he was the fun one. My daughters took day off work took me for light lunch but their partners came and I felt like a spare part realized I'm alone this is how it's going to be they were talking between themselves and i'm just silently crying thinking we should all be together like we always were. Sat in the back of my daughter car thinking I really am just tagging alone Simon and I would be in our car hate this really hate this x

Hi there, I am so sorry you are going through this devastating experience. It is truly shocking. It is so upsetting that our brains keep taking us back to all of the traumatic events that we have experienced. Apparently, if we had to deal with the trauma in one go, we would end up nuts. I feel the same as you, I don’t belong anywhere now. Yes, I have our beautiful adult children, however, that is not the same as having the person that we had a future with. Their love, support and affection. Try to come on here when you can, at least we truly understand. Sending hugs, Kate.xxx

It is awful and what a day you’ve had. We only want our husbands or partners back and for things to be how they were,  they were the only ones we could truly share our lives our thoughts our feelings together. Being with family just isn’t the same anymore as hard as that seems I feel the only ones that understand are those that are on here and the ones I show my true feelings to are on here. I hide my emotions from family.

I feel for you tonight it’s going to be a long night. If you can’t sleep come on here someone will be there to talk or listen to you and maybe even make you smile as they have me over the last few weeks. 

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I am not seeing many people at the moment, as I can’t be bothered to pretend. As long as the bills are paid, the house is running, and the dog walked, I don’t care. I am mainly pottering in the garden or reading. The rest can wait, Thank goodness for our local library. Kate. Xxx