What do you call THAT day

Hi there, my husband died on the 4th August last year. I can’t think of an appropriate word to honour that person on that day. To be honest, I don’t want to relive his last day. It was horrendous. We might try and go away for a few days. Life for all of us is still so fragile. I have been to his grave over thirty times, to tend it and chat to him. I need it to be very low key. Kate. 

I don't want to relive it either, but I still relive it every Saturday! I take mine flowers about once a month, so I'll be going on the day, but what I'll do for the rest of the day I don't know. Its nice when other people remember as it shows how much he meant to others. I hope you trip away helps you. 

Hi there, I haven’t booked it yet. I am still considering the best thing to do. I just know it will be a difficult day. Tears seem to be almost a daily occurrence anyway. Have things got easier at all ? Kate.

Hello Jel123

We have something in common. My husband passed two years ago next month also. Yes anniversary I think that's what everyone calls it milestones are normally referred to that. I suppose it could be called the `2 year mark` or whatever hard to say what you could call it but I get where you are coming from with that. My husband passed on the 23rd June 2023 which was two days after our wedding anniversary so its as though he held on for that for just one more anniversary. 

Things don't really get easier just different. Eventually you get to carry on with the things you need to do but the tears carry on and hit you at sometimes unexpected times, when I see the soup he liked in Tescos, his car magazine in Smiths, the formula one he loved on television and other programmes we used to like watching together. We just learn to put on a brave face for other people. Make the most of the good days and ride out the bad. 

Hi Patty. We have more in common. My husband died a couple of weeks after our wedding anniversary. We would have been married 30 years last week. I've still got the last anniversary birthday valentine and Christmas cards he sent me and bring them out on the day. Makes me feel like he's still with me in a way/

I still have my husband's ashes because I just don't know what to do with them so in a way he is still here. `He` sits in a corner in a union jack urn and is quite happy I suppose  I used to think that was quite creepy that people kept their loved ones ashes but now I do actually get it. I chose that urn in remembrance of his football team Glasgow Rangers (Red White & Blue) and when they are playing especially against the `auld enemy` (Celtic) I bring it over and put it in front of the TV which is where he would be if he was here, there or he and my son would be at Ibrox stadium in Glasgow where they had season tickets. Hard to believe its coming up to two years still feels like yesterday and at times I still can't comprehend he's gone. Still days I wake up and can't believe he's gone. He passed on a Friday so it's Fridays with me. Best wishes to you moving forwards. 

Vicky.

I didn't keep my husbands ashes, but I can see why some people do. Having a part of him still there with you. I like that he watches television with you. I have a memory bear made with some of my husbands clothes and a lock of his hair inside it. It sits on a table in the living room, but sometimes if there's something on television he would really like I sit the bear on the chair with me. 

Aww thats lovely! The things we do eh? Yes I've heard of people doing that thing of making memory bears etc. Yes and why not have `him` watch TV with you. I do that as well if there is some programme on he used to watch I'll sit `him` in front on the TV. He could be a bit of a couch potato at times and a `channel hopper` which used to drive me nuts. He would start watching a programme then flick the channel to something else half way through. I hardly have the TV on these days only at night time for the news and soaps etc. 

I love the idea of the bear!

A dear friend gave me a comforter (which I have over me as I type this in bed), which is warm, fluffy and snuggly and I use every night. 
I was thinking of sewing squares of his everyday T-shirts and “posh” shirts onto the back of it like a patchwork.

How did you go about getting the bear?