18 months since my husband died, I have family and friends around me and try to carry on with things putting on a smile. I still feel lost and lonely it doesn't get easier
My dear husband of 40 years will be gone two years next month (June). I can't tell you if it will get better because we all grieve differently. For me though, I have I felt moved forward be it just slightly. I have managed to do several things without him things I thought I would never be able to do on my own and I just hope he's up there looking down proud of what I have managed so far. When he was going through his treatment and in his final days I just did not see a way forward without him and was in a very dark place and it was him that said to me that I would make it without him and that I was stronger than I knew. My one big event in this time has been my son's wedding which we held just back in February there. Valentines weekend of all times and just two days after Jay's (my husband) birthday. It was a lovely day though but just a bit bittersweet because he wasn't there but I got through it and everything went well for them. Another milestone he'll miss is my little granddaughter starting school this August. He wanted to be here for that and was determined to be but unfortunately cancer and sepsis had other plans for him. Just a few other things have happened too that he is not here to share with but I just keep telling myself he will be somewhere around watching. Just come here when you feel you need to as we all `get it` it's a good place to come and let off steam or scream and shout or whatever. My best wishes to you moving forward.
Reading what you have put Vicky .Mirrors my life it’s three yrs now . My son was getting married, He didn’t make it in person all I had was his very special photo on a table . I have greatgrand twins who I pick up from school . I have a granddaughter the same age they keep me busy . My hubby and I missed our golden wedding by three weeks . My daughter still sent a card as she said it was still our anniversary even if he wasn’t there . I married the love of my life on my birthday.I found last year the worst so far everyone one takes their loss differently I still cry I’m still sad but fill my life with things we would have done . He would be so proud of how I cope
Yes so much I want to share with him and he's not here. My son did a lovely thing at his wedding though and they had a remembrance table with pictures of family who had passed away and were not there. Photos of Jay, my dad (his papa) Jay's mum his brother and his sister in law and my daughter-in-laws mother and her grandmother were placed there. My mum and Jay's dad passed when William (my son) was only months old so he never really knew them it was really people they both grew up with and remembered. My dad was such an influence on him when he was growing up. My daughter in law just lost her mother last year to stomach cancer so that was a bit of a blow for them too. Our wedding anniversary is the 21st June and Jay just made it before he passed two days later on the 23rd it was as if he wanted to stay for that but the way he was in the end I don't even think he knew what day it was let alone our anniversary. He also missed his 70th birthday he was only 8 months away from that when he passed. I find it still quite hard to cry but now and again it will just happen and I then have an idea that this is what it is the grief coming out and I feel that little bit better after it does. Thankfully it has happened when I have been at home and not out somewhere. I could never cry for him at the beginning and thought it strange as I thought it was something I should be doing but when it happened the first time I was in a way relieved that it did. So much he won't see and so many milestones he'll miss but I like to think he will be somewhere watching from afar. Take care and best wishes to you moving forwards.
Hello my husband passed away in June 2024 He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on the 1st of May 2024 passed away on the 21st of June 2024 I’ve known him since I was 16 and he was 18. We married in our 20s and we’re married for 35 years two children and at the time that he passed away two grandchildren. I miss him so much and functioning is hard. The l Loneliness is the worst not having that person who could tell everything to being there.Now all I have are memories of him and me in the family, his cheeky grin his lame jokes and the feeling of being safe when he was around. I’ll try to think of all the positives and the good times that we had but still do have those days when I just want him to ask me for a cup of tea add a sandwich.
