My wife passed away on 26th Feb, she was 58, her funeral is next Thursday. A couple of years ago we moved her elderly parents into our house so that we could look after them in their later years but that isn’t the way it’s panned out. I’m 47 and the plan will stay exactly the same, I’ll look after her parents until they are away, we get on fine so there is no issues.
I was thinking of going away for a few days (maybe 5) after the funeral before I go back to work. I’m nervous though, would love to sit in a bar in the Canaries but I think I might panic at some point and want to be home so going away in the UK would be easier.
Keep thinking about Skyfall (the bond) movie, getting right out the way. I’ve been working non-stop since my wife had a fall just after Christmas, caring for her at home for 5 weeks then when she was given days to live I coordinated all the care/medical teams, then over the past few weeks I’ve been looking after everyone in the family, arranging a fitting funeral and also sorting life insurance/solicitors/mortgages etc. I know I haven’t got much left in the tank but I know when I slow down the silence will be deafening.
Reading some of the comments in this chat makes me want to do more for people. I’m lucky in so many ways.
If you read this and are struggling, I feel for you, honestly. I have none of the answers and I’m only just starting to get an impression of what lies ahead. I think be kind to yourself springs to mind.
So my question would be, do I push myself and fly somewhere running the risk of feeling stuck or play safe and go up the highlands?
