Just need to talk

It is a difficult journey finding yourself alone after 34 years of love and friendship. I am nearly eight years in and, apart from a couple of failed attempts at trying to find someone, I have had to summon up the strength to find a new way of living my life. Friends drop off because they still all come in couples. My children are my foundation for all I do now. You do not say if you have children.

I have also thrown myself into a couple of volunteering  roles and that brings me into contact with people and often lived experience can help others.

My best advice is to take your time, allow yourself to adjust to this new normal. Spreading your wife’s ashes is certainly a good thing to do - especially if, as you say, it will be done at your favourite beach. I did the same thing and can say hello when I visit or drive past. I actually spread her ashes at different places and also let the children choose places that held particular memories for them. I have some in the soil under an Acer tree in my garden and I actually still have some.

Take your time and take care of yourself.

Hi.

Thank you. I  am sorry to say we did not have children.  Sue did not want them and seen as it was her body, I never pressed her. As Sue meant so much to me.