I don’t know how much more of this rollercoaster I can take.
Today I had a good day.
I went to discuss volunteering at our local museum behind the scenes.
We had a really good talk about what I’d like to do .
He was understanding and accepting that there would be days I would not come in, but working out back, that wouldn't matter.
I will start on Sunday with auditing one of their stock rooms.
This is heaven to me!
I was actually feeling quite alive for the first time in 4 months.
My mum and friend said I sounded alive.
I have just tried to print out the Land Registry form to make some changes and the cartridge was out.
So I put a new one in.
And it is not printing anything black. The colour is fine.
Taken it out. Cleaned the heads. Checked the cartridge. Checked YouTube.
Nothing.
I need to copy some papers that need posting tomorrow.
Now utterly stressed. Panicky. Sobbing.
I can’t take anymore.
Haven’t I been through enough already?
Why is it that every time, every f***ing time, things start to look okish, that I go out and actually laugh, that I relax, something happens to push me back to the abyss again.
I can’t do this sh*t anymore.
What’s the bloody point?
I just want to get in the car and drive off.
Sorry. But I need to vent.
And typing this kinda talks me out of doing something stupid.
Oh MrsVT, know what you mean, life's rollercoaster - thing is why does it always seem to be plummeting down with so few ups? No need to say sorry, I think all of us here know and understand. I've been having a pretty lousy couple of weeks. Saw the mental health nurse 2 weeks ago, was prescribed some meds they thought would help. Worst 3 days ever, turns out I'm one of the "rare side effects that affect less that 1 in 1,000". Had to stop taking after 2 nights, couldn't take the affects. Been talking to CRUSE and the hospice bereavement team who are helping me through this nightmare, back to the doc tomorrow, we will see whats next.
On a more practical note, if colour printing is OK (and assuming that you are using a Windows based system, not sure about Macs) , if you load the document you need to print, then hold down the Control Key (usually labelled ctrl ) and press the letter " a " at the same time , the whole document should highlight (or go to edit and click on "select all" ). The whole document should highlight. Right mouse click , then select one of the "colour" or "format" options . Change the text colour to a dark blue / navy blue , then try to print. I cant guarantee it will work, but because it is a blue colour it should use the colour cartridge, not the black. Hopefully will allow you to print what you need while you try to sort out the black cartridge issue?
I know that we are not allowed to pass personal details here - completely understand why, but if you need IT help, please post - I worked in IT for 30+ years, and am providing support to half the village - keeps my mind off the nightmares in my head!
Hi Mrs VT
You vent all you like that is what these forums are for. Think I've been where you are just now you start to try to move forward and laugh about things again but there's something somewhere pushing you back and telling you no you just stay where you are. I thought of doing a lot of `silly things` too but luckily for me thinking about doing them was as far as I got and yes trying to fathom things out for yourself that can be trial and error and anything that has gone wrong for me doing that or if I've made a pigs ear of doing something I just put it down to learning and not make the same mistake again- the perils of trying to be independent. You will get there and there will be bad and good days still and now and again you do manage to get off the rollercoaster. Wish you well moving forward.
Vicky xx
Hey MrsVT
I've had a pretty awful day too, I don't even know how I work when I can barely function. Just couldn't get it together today. I feel you in not being able to take anymore.
I'm glad it went well at the museum. The printer...there's always something right? Remember, we don't have the same capacity, patience and tolerance we did before, all these things get to us even more and add to our already heavy load. You're allowed to vent. hope you get sorted.
Did you write about your day in your book? maybe that will help?
Take care x
Hi MrsVT
I totally understand you venting. Vent away! I am not coping well and yesterday I came home to find my rabbit was very poorly. Spent the evening at the vets thinking please don’t die I just can’t cope with that. Thankfully he seems ok and has perked up with the medication. I am glad it went well at the museum. I am sure this will really help. Bloody printers! Look after yourself xx
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