So my beautiful Valen has both his parents, a sister and 2 brothers.
We would go see his parents 4 times a year for the day and he would speak to them weekly.
Barely saw or spoke to his little brother (Valen was easily annoyed by him).
He messaged his elder brother weekly and in his last few weeks spoke on the phone more.
His little sister he spoke to and messaged weekly.
He would help sort out his parents health problems and also sourced specialists and chiropractors etc for his sister.
As he was very tech savvy he also sorted out all their phone, computer, tv etc problems.
What I’m saying is that he helped them loads, but we didn’t see them often and I rarely spoke to them.
Now. I get, obviously, of course, that they are grieving.
Especially his parents who have lost their beloved son.
But his sister has taken to texting me with the “signs” he is sending her.
I have told her that I won’t reply to all her messages which she is ok with but she will keep sending them and calling me her sister.
His parents have taken to sending me “gifts” in the post.
They are practising Catholics and the gifts are all very religious.
They are also very tacky, morbid and upset me.
I have told his sister that though it’s kind of them they do know that we are not religious and I have nowhere to put these gifts.
I also told her that I find them a little upsetting.
But they won’t stop.
They call me their daughter and that they are my parents as well as his!
As I said, I get they are having to deal with their grief as well.
But I can’t deal my own, let alone their as well.
How does everyone else deal with the in-laws?
