Not coping

I am sorry for your sad loss. I lost my husband 16 months ago to glioblastoma and am still finding life impossible, and what is the point, as my future has been taken away. I try and keep busy and meet up with friends who are in the same position so get everything you say, even though we all do and feel things differently, we have all lost the love of our life, our best friend, the other half of us, and our reason for living. It was our Wedding Anniversary on Sunday, our 45th, and the second one since he passed away, and i felt it was harder this year than last year. I hope you get through the funeral next week, as best you can. I am sorry i have no helpful words, but just do things one step at a time, and do things how you want to and not by what other people say. Take care.x

Sending you a hug as there is nothing I can say that will help. My husband died on the 17th June from bowel cancer. We were married for 40 years. As dipsy says, take everything at your own pace and in your own way. There is no ‘correct’ way to grieve or to feel, and all of us react differently. This forum is brilliant as everyone here understands, even if our experience is not the same. Best wishes to you for next week and onwards.

Hi there, my husband passed on the 4th of August from kidney cancer. It was so fast. Diagnosed in March and gone by August, and then it starts. Registering the death, visiting the funeral directors, sorting the wake, contacting family and friends, sorting the buffet, and on an on it goes. This is when you are at your most vulnerable, in shock, exhausted and trying to process the loss. It is savage. I did it all on my own. The only way I got through it was sheer bloody mindedness. I wanted to have a lasting memory of the day. I thought the best way I could show my love, was to focus minute by minute on the arrangements and push until it was all in place. The goal was to get through the day with dignity and then I could find time for me. You are stronger than you think. You can do this. Sending you strength and hugs. Kate. Xxx