Going Through The Motions.

Oh hello. That is hard for your daughter too. Sounds like a very close relationship.Between you and her now, you will find your way to grieve. Hope the counselling helps. I did some but it was in French and a group too, found it hard. Spoke on the phone to Cancer Support in France, in English, and they followed and checked on me for quite a few months. Very good . We are here for you too.

Big hugs 

Yes that's perfectly normal. You will have days/weeks like this. I still do. If you just feel you want to have `duvet day` just go ahead. The food shopping and carpet can wait ( but hopefully you have enough rashions in foodwise to do you). The dog depending on where you live a flat or house if you have a back garden just put him/her out there. I live in a flat and it's upstairs so I need to go out for that. You'll get wee spells of this but they pass. Best Wishes to you moving forward.

Thank you Kate x

Take care 

I am having one of those days too. It’s obviously very common.I lost my husband two months ago. I can hear a voice in my head telling me to carry on, to do all the things we had planned together, to live my best life but it’s so hard when you wake up and the first thing you think about is them. Not being able to see their smile, hear their laugh, give them a hug and tell them how much you love them. I’m taking each day as it comes and putting one foot in front of the other and doing the best that I can. No one who hasn’t experienced this can really know how it feels to lose your soulmate, your best friend, your reason to carry on. Stay strong everyone. 

My daughter too helped me care for my husband who passed away in July, very sudden at the end, think that is why we are all struggling so much … we all miss him and are coping differently, so hard 

Yes, it is. Both our adult children helped with their Dad. They both live at home, and helped care for him over the last five months. I am so proud of them.It was unquestioning, and beautiful in its own way. My husband had terminal agitation and couldn’t be left alone at all. We were completely wiped out towards the end. I still would not have changed a single moment. Xxx