In Sept I was given the all clear from my breast cancer , my husband and I could breathe again but then he suddenly died 10 days ago . His heart just stopped . For the last 9 months all the focus was on me ,all the energies were sent my way but it was my husband who was truly ill . I still have 3 months of targeted treatment to go but I really couldn't care anymore . My treatment was so successful but all it did was kept me alive to watch my husband die . I know I have to keep going and I will . I didn't lose my husband to cancer but I just think that the stress it put on him looking after me took its toll .Just trying to make sense of whats happened but I don't there is any sense to this one .
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Hi there, words fail me. You must be in terrible shock and pain. I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you.This forum has been really important to me over the last six months. It is a lifeline in our darkest moments. We are here for you. Kind regards, Kate.
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