Wedding anniversary

Hi Ruby Diamond,

I remember you from the beginning , my husband died a few months before yours, I think. Like you, I still dip in here from time to time.

I'm sorry you're having a hard day today. I don't think people realise that although it is now some years ago that we lost our husbands, we still vividly remember certain dates, and still miss our husbands. I don't think people know what to say. To be fair, I have a friend who was widowed a few years before me, and I honestly didn't realise how she would feel after 7 years. I do now.

I think my mum more or less ignored things like that, although she was in her early 90's, but I think that would have been her way at any age.

I still remember the day my husband was diagnosed, coming up soon, and always feel sad on that day.

Perhaps you'll feel a bit better tomorrow when the anniversary date is over, I don't know, but I hope so.

I read something the other day about accepting how your life is, and making the best out of it. I'm trying to do that, but it's hard not to wish things were how they used to be.

Sending you a virtual hug, and the assurance that there are many people here who do understand. X

Well today is our anniversary. My husband died in June. We were together for 40 years; married for 20 of them. I actually didn’t want to get married; it was a practical decision and we had the most un-wedding event possible. No one other than the witnesses knew. Even the date didn’t shout celebration - no one back then would’ve chosen 11/9. However it’s been a hard day today. I’m sending you a big hug.