Hello everybody,
I don't yet belong in this forum (fortunately), but I have been struggling with this potential relality a lot lately. I guess, with a diagnosis like this, it is like living with the sword of Damocles forever hanging over you.
We are both very young, not even 30, we planned our whole future together. We are so excited for this life we built... and then I remember "it". What if we are just dreaming...
The absolute love of my life, the only person who makes everything be ok. We are so in love. It hurts beyond explanation to imagine a world without him.
And then I think of what would happen to me if he is not here. Any person next to him would pale in comparisson cause a love like this is impossible to find again. But does that mean I would have to give up on the possibility of having a family or ever feeling good again...? Would I be forever heartbroken? Forever alone?
I am honestly, just looking for somebody who can tell me that I could survive without him, cause every time I think about it I find it very unlikely. I need to believe it would eventually get better. I need to believe my future doesn't end with him even if it feels that way. I need to have hope that I won't lose hope. I am just very scared.
Also, I am very sorry if I posted in the wrong group, I wasn't sure if there was a more suitable group. I am new to the site.
Hi BebeG and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
It's natural to worry about the future when someone you love has cancer. I'm not sure from your post if your partner has been given an incurable diagnosis or not. If the diagnosis is incurable then can I recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer forum and if his cancer is curable then the carers only forum would be a good one to join. Both forums are great places to give and receive support.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your partner's diagnosis and treatment to date into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
