It’s worse every day

1. Hi John so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife Anne, you must miss her terribly. Grief counselling can help though you may feel this isn’t right for you.Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and good wishes your way. 

Hello John

such very sad news I am so sorry, losing a loved one is a traumatic experience, which sometimes often feels unmanageable to bear.

I have been in very dark places, especially in the first months after my Linda passed, I wasn’t holding her hand as she passed, but I wish I had, I had been talking and comforting her, through the night, only left her to answer the door, so was only 6 feet away from her, then I heard the scream from one of my daughters that she had gone. I know how you feel, I know how difficult it is to motivate to do anything at all, even getting out of bed, in the early months I could t get out of bed till 2pm. It’s one year on Sunday, although I am managing better, I still feel a total uncontrollable sadness, which never leaves me. I am always on the brink of tears, it doesn’t take much to start me bawling. We are all different, my friend lost his wife 3 years ago, but finds it very difficult to cry, he wishes he could. Please know we are all here for you,I have sent a friend request, so you can PM me if you want a private chat anytime.

thinking of you 

and yes feel free to use this forum, I hope it helps in some small way