My wife died in November after a long illness. I'm atheist but have comforted myself with imagined signs of her presence & watching over me. I guess it's been a coping thing to keep her independent presence alive.
I'm now at the stage though where I realise that she's just not here in any form other than my love and memories. And that's the hardest bit. Not the being on my own, not the coping with day to day, just her absence, day after day.
I'm doing self care, being with people, having a cry when it overwhelms me, so I'm being healthy, I hope. It's just so stark.
Hello Antoine
that is so beautiful, bought tears to my eyes. Memories are so vitally important, I like to think I am a much better person, for being married to my wonderful Linda. She is part of me forever. We have our first great grandchild due in January, I know that Linda would would want to do everything in her power to help, which is exactly what I am doing, for the both of us.
keep safe & well
Linda You are my best memory, You are all of my best memories
Hello Jane
that was so lovely to hear, family is so so important, never fully realised until after my wife had passed, I believe all my attentions were towards her and her comfort. My eldest Daughter used to come round every few weeks to do some housework, primarily to help me while I was caring for Linda, but I also gave her some money as she was struggling financially, so it suited everyone. I do still do the housework, but only the essential stuff, I’m not lazy, not sure what it is, but mostly can’t see the point. But she just asked if I want her to help with the housework again, maybe once a month, be so handy to get some of the jobs done that I have just ignored, she will come with her Daughter and my Great grandchild. So I’ll have time with them, which will be amazing, also my Daughter is going to make me dinner for that day, brings it with her prepared, and do lunch. I will pay her as before, will go towards helping with the new baby. So everyone gains, sounds perfect, will certainly give me something to look forward to once a month, can make it every 3 weeks if it works out well.
Have just made a long list for her, to work through. So sometimes good things do happen, just have to be patient I guess, plus my eldest Son has just invited me over for a roast dinner.
keep safe and well
Linda You are my best memory, You are all of my best memories
Hello
i watched the video, thanks for sharing. There is so much that cannot be explained, I do believe there is more to the world than what we see.
keep safe and well
Linda You are my best memory, You are all of my best memories
