I lost my husband in October, struggling to cope

You've no need to tell yourself off. The loss of your husband is overwhelming in so many ways. Don't expect too much of yourself. 

Take care

Hello Emanjay

Like you my beloved and I did everything together. We were never blessed with children so now I am alone but not really. His love and strength helped to form me and so knowing that I can keep going. 
I miss him so very much.

Be kind to yourself my dear and take your time.

June xx

Thank you for your replies Wildcat and Will6,

I know I am not alone in my feelings of loss and sadness and that everyone in this group understands completely how I feel.

My thoughts are with everyone going through such a life shattering loss.

Hi Emanjay,

I lost my soulmate 16/10/21 taken way too young at 56 & very suddenly. I have days when I feel I’m not doing so bad and then days when I’m a blubbering mess because the smallest of things has upset me.

I have started to go back to things I enjoy swimming being one as I train with friends the hard physical exercise is good for my mind & helps with sleep. I have also booked for a massage in the new year as I’ve not done this in a while and might help. 
like you it’s baby steps and one day at a time

Sending hugs

Tracey xx

Hi Emanjay,

I am so very sorry for your loss. And I am glad you have come to this forum as here we all understand. It's good to share with people who have experienced the same or at least very similar.

You have no reason at all to tell yourself off. Yes the kids grieve but you are grieving too and there is space for everybody's grief.

Maybe you can talk about it together, share your memories, treasure the memories - when the time is right.

Mind yourself and please keep posting.

Lots of love, Mel.