Misery milestones

Hello Amanda278

I feel your pain my beautiful wife slipped away in my arms at 00:35 on 3rd November.

After 22 years together it seems as if my world is empty the nights are colder and longer and the pain does not ease.

I hope you can be strong and remember all the good times you had together.

Thinking of you.

John

And I know those memories will console me at some point in the future, but they make me feel sadder and more bereft now. 

Thank you for your reply and I will think of you too - we are on the same timeframe, my husband died on 2nd November 

Hi Amanda, I’m not much further down my new path than you 4 weeks but I found the 2 week mark the worst, I had set the wheels in motion for most of the financial stuff/ funeral arrangements but then everything seemed to be in limbo except the arrival of huge piles of sympathy cards and I cried buckets every morning at the beautiful messages. I was sitting alone in the house for hours on end and felt to be drowning with a physical pain in my chest, the emotions I felt were truly alien to me & I didn’t recognise any of them. A good friend towards the back end of that week happened to text me & realised I wasn’t in a good way & at 9:30pm arrived at my house to stay with me for the night. I also that weekend spoke to another couple of friends who have also lost partners & this did me the world of good. As a very independent women I have found it hard to reach out to people when I’ve not felt so good but I’m beginning to do this & it makes each day more bearable. I go to bed when I feel tired not when the clock tells me.

I have felt more contentment since Craig’s funeral & discovered things about him that I never knew, saw previously unshared photos from some of the golfing trips he went on, I used the day as a final opportunity to let Craig shine.

Be kind to yourself take all the help that is offered to you & think of all your wonderful memories you made

Love & hugs

Tracey xx