O had counselling this year, it was threw the hospice than y hubby
was in.
All i can say, you have to click with the counsellor, we did from the start, it makes it so much easier to open up.
I even at times swore and apologised, she was cool with it, you are being you and saying it as it is and that ispart of counselling, letting it all out.
I had a box of tissues, which on first session was used a lot.
I learnt so much and she helped me understand the grieve process, i told her i was lost, did not know who i was without him, we had been married 53years, so never knew a life on my own.
Since i finished counselling things have improved so much, i have started to gain a bit of confidence because hubby and i where a team and everything was done together.
I have no regrets that i asked for help. It did take me 18 months to admit to my self, i have to do something.
The way it was done she would just say a few word
sand that opened it up and i never stopped talking after that.
I have had counselling several times for various issues, divorce, work stress... It has always helped me, but as Ellie says you must click with the counsellor, if not don't be afraid to ask for someone else. I cannot comment on online sessions as I don't see them working for me. For 9 weeks now I've been seeing a psychologist once a week and I walk in, he says how's your week been, I try to answer then breakdown. He is very patient with me, listens offers comments on grieving, state of mind, etc.. but never pushes me.
He's keeping me going, this morning I explained each day is getting tougher, and I'd had some dark thoughts. He explained of ever I got such thoughts I was to call him immediately. Just the words I needed to hear that someone did care about my welfare and health.
