Returning to work

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m in a similar position. I lost my wife almost 4 months ago and I’m only starting to go back to work now. We both did the same job, in different areas but it’s the thought of not being able to talk to her, of people asking me how I am everyday. I haven’t been back since October last year due to diagnosis and covid lockdowns. I also have our dogs… or I did until Monday when I lost one. They are/were both almost 15 and take some serious looking after due to poor health. I have anxiety about leaving them too. And now I’m down to one dog… 

On the outside I appear to be coping well but I’m really struggling. 

Hi, it's still very raw for you. I remember feeling the need to get out of the numbness last year a few months after losing my wife. Hopefully you'll feel it too. Work can be a good way to distract yourself even though in my case, I used to work from home with my wife (both freelancers) so the loneliness is not great.

Giving you time and assessing your emotions is a great way to deal with this. It doesn't solve everything but at least you know where you're going.

Take care xx

Hi EJ.  My partner passed away in February.  I was off work for three months and was ready to go back.  I missed seeing people, but it was hard as I didn't know who was aware that Nic had died.  I therefore kept myself to myself and didn't really talk to anyone very much.  In the end it was too hard and I've now given up work. 

I hope you can find a way through for your family and have support from work while you go through this journey.

Look after yourself.

Felicity 

Hi EJ,

Sorry for your loss.
My husband passed away in December and I returned to work in February, it was really difficult as I was planning on retiring so we could go off and have fun together. I decided to return as it was probably the lesser of two evils and think I’ve made the right decision. It can be a bit of a distraction and a reason to get up in the morning but this might not be the same for everyone.

Do what feels right for you,  take your time and take care of yourself, there are no easy answers in this sad journey we’re on.

Geraldine