Unexpected Reminders

That sounds like perfectly fitting thing to do limbo

I can totally understand your concerns about moving house..  My husband passed away just 6 month ago and since then I have sold my home (still waiting for sale to finalise) bought a new house with my daughter and grandson and left the area to live miles away.

Apart from myvdaughter I dont know anyone, have no friends and feel totally lost.. but without Mark by my side I figured what the hell does it all matter anyway.  I know the move is best for the future financially and as I get older.

I'm only 59 but feel like I've left my independence already and handed the reins over to my daughter ... and to be honest at this stage I can't be bothered to care.

Mark's ashes are down by the side of my bed, some little amounts are mounted in jewellery I wear and a glass memorial ornament. His photos are on the wall and his memory lives on in my heart ♡

Facebook Memories occasionally throw a curve ball and will show a photo of happy times when I least expect it! 

Ian, if you had a good feeling when viewing a new potential home I would say..go with it. I'm a great believer in gut feeling.  I hope it all works out and you find a new place. And remember.. it doesn't matter if you move as the real memories are inside you not just in the bricks and mortar of where you lived together.

Take care x

Today I’m in bits- the blossom has finally come out on the tree in the front garden. It was tree Chris planted so that he could put Christmas lights on it, back in the days when hardly anyone had outside Christmas lights. I thought I’d feel happy when it eventually flowered but sadly not so this morning. Maybe tomorrow.....

Hugs

Jane

Jane, it is a beautiful tree...

Make yourself a coffee, light a little candle or however you choose and look at each flower as Chris telling you he loves you and is sending you little fragrant kisses ♡

Pooka, that’s a lovely thought. Thank you, I will

Jane

xx

PS Why is it that so often we’re better at saying wise words to others but not to ourselves?

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That’s so true Jane. But that’s why we are on here so we can tell each other the things we are blind to ourselves. 
That’s a beautiful tree. Chris will be smiling at that and will want you too as well. 
I can visualise the Christmas lights!! Xx 

Hi Pooka,

Many thanks for your wise words regarding my post it means a lot. 

After reading your story, I can only begin to imagine how this move has impacted on your life that you’ve left behind and so many memories in your last property, but I agree with you that the most important memories are the ones that we hold in our hearts forever.

I wish you well in your new home and I also hope you, me and all these lovely people who read these posts get that feeling back in our lives once again that we want to live a life again. However how this is supposed to happen I’m not sure, but I do believe that our partners would expect us to “give it a go” and hopefully one day we’ll try and “give it a go” but until then I wish you good health and send you and all these lovely people my best wishes for the future.

I do hope we all find peace one day, Ian xx

Hi Jane,

It must have been heartbreaking for you, but the tree is so beautiful and every time you look at it just think of each flower as a beautiful memory that you had with your beloved, it won’t bring him back but I do hope it makes you look at the tree in a different light.

Sending you a virtual hug.

I do hope we all find peace one day, Ian xx

Morning Ian 

I agree with what you say. I hope our loved ones can help us to somehow “give it a go” as we move through time. 

My heart (like all on here) is so broken it physically hurts but I want to feel my David’s love encouraging me to want to live a life again eventually. With him always firmly in the centre of my tattered, but slowly getting stronger heart. I can but hope. 

I second the finding peace one day. Xx

Hi MyPineapple,

I totally understand about your heart being broken so much that it hurts, and mine too, I’ve never experienced anything like this pain, nor do I ever want to again. I so want the same as you which is to feel like I want to live a life again, as I know Marie wanted this for me as David would want this for you too. It’s just how we start building our lives again without our loved ones being part of our future and for me thats the difficult bit as I simply miss her more than words can say.

Its great to hear that your heart is ‘very slowly getting stronger’ that sends a positive message of encouragement to me and so many others who are in the same position. We have to grasp every tiny crumb of positivity and embrace it as much as we possibly can, as without it we have nothing but negativity and that just leads to more sadness and thats something we can all do without.

I’m taking ‘Baby steps’ each and every day and living my life minute by minute some days as thats all I seem to be equipped for at this moment in time. But I do want to live again as a mark of love and respect for Marie but thats way into the future and for now I’m trying to be kind to myself, as one of these lovely people on this forum quoted a few weeks ago and hopefully one day I may just come out of this hideous ordeal on other side for my families sake as much as for myself.

I do hope we all find peace one day, Ian xx