Coming back to an empty house

I hope time will make you feel better...

I was going to post something similar. I've recently been away for two weeks - the middle weekend was spent in my late husband's beloved Sussex so we could scatter his ashes at Charleston Farmhouse. He died on September 30 last year. Following the scattering, I felt such a sense of peace and a feeling that I wanted to really start living again, as he had hoped I would. But the minute I stepped into my (our) house, it all disappeared. I feel as sad and unmotivated as ever before...grief is a very difficult taskmaster

I have put in an application for a house where my daughter and her family will be moving. I hope it won't take too long. I have the highest number of points one can have. I think a fresh start is needed.

Hugs to you, Dreenie61,

Martha

Thank you so much for replying. I haven't posted before and feel quite nervous, but I had such a terrible night that I felt I had to do something. I understand what you're saying about feeling you're moving on, then coming back down very suddenly, but scattering your husband's ashes is a major step and it sounds like you did a lovely thing. I haven't been able to do it yet, but I want to deal with it soon, hopefully before Xmas, which is when my partner died. 

I have been thinking about moving, but am hesitating because I have great neighbours and lots of friends around, so I'm not making any big decisions yet. I wish you luck with your application and hope it's not too long till you get a house you are happy in. 

Dreenie. I think you've done well going away. I've never been away with anyone apart from my husband or family as a child and have no one to go away with now .

Hi there, I'm so sorry that you feel that way. I don't have kids but I have a great sister and good friends, which has been a real comfort. I really enjoyed the break, but came down with such a bump, that I wished I hadn't gone. I actually feel better for joining the forum, and I hope it gives you some support. 

This forum can be a virtual lifeline. So sorry you have the circumstances that require your presence here - certainly a "club" with members who'd rather not be here - but it is a great place for not feeling quite so alone.

I live in a very remote area in Scotland, so moving won't be too difficult, although I have a lovely and very tightly knit community here that has been so supportive of me since Chris died. But I will enjoy being closer to my daughter and her family. My granddaughters mean the whole world to me and I want to see more of them.

All the best to you,

Martha