Having lost my Anne just over 2 months ago ( Married 50yrs) I put this up for interest only.
At my end of the street I'm one of 6 widowers! Four in the last year! I'm one of them. I know and speak to them all. One dear man is 86. He tells me it still often brings him to tears when he hears his wife's name mentioned - nearly a year on. My second friend is also 86. Six months on he cries every morning after waking up and walks into an empty living room. The final third friend I'm mentioning lost his wife 2yrs ago after 29yrs of marriage. Within two weeks of her passing he disposed of her clothes. Within three weeks he went on holiday. And again within two months. When I asked him tactfully how he was able to do these things he replied. " Geoff. D.... had been seriously ill for 5yrs. During that time I saw to her every needs. It was hard towards the end as I could only get her around in a wheel chair. When I got the phone call from the hospital telling me she had passed it felt like a heavy weight had been lifted both from D... and myself. I know she wanted to die. Some people have implied I've been cold hearted but I loved D... " A few weeks ago he took off his wedding ring and said to me. " Technically speaking I'm single now so why wear a wedding ring? You never know your luck do you?" He is 72.
The different ways folk deal with the death of their spouse/partner.
Love and Light.
Geoff
