How to cope

Hi Andrea,

I was thinking of you yesterday. I understand that it must have been a very difficult day for you.

When I read about your problems with sleep, I really do think it might be good to go to your doctor and request sleeping tablets. Don't get me wrong, I don't really like taking medication either, but I think at this difficult time in life we simply need to use all the support that we can get, even if it means taking tablets for a while. I take a sleeping tablet every single night andI would not want to be without them.

I don't like the saying "Time heals the wounds". Personally, I am of the opinion that we learn to live and cope with our pain better but not that it decreases as such. I think people who say that have either not gone through what we are going through or they cut themselves off from their feelings and ability to empathise. I have no time for people like that anyway.

Andrea, I hope that over time your pain will become more manageable and that you will feel less vulnerable. For today I wish you light and love.

Mel.

Hi Andrea,

Mel is right about all these appeasing phrases you don't move on you learn to live with the loss, after a while you recall the good times as often as the bad and as for time its part of the learning process.

I know that sleeping pills don't sound appealing but your doctor would give you enough to establish a normal sleep pattern, just a few days worth. When you are not so tired then you won't get the sleep anxiety so much 

D