Struggling

Thank you all for your replys I know it sounds silly but up until the last 2weeks I have always felt my wife's spirit was around me but just lately it feels different like she has gone has anyone else has this feeling

Hi Val and Mark. 

Thank you for the replies, I know it is still early days . The hardest part is trying to get used to the loneliness, I suppose that will be with us forever but just get more used to it 

Wishing you all well. 

Mike 

Hi Newb. I am sorry you feel like that. Hopefully it is just a blip , and the feeling will return again. I am sure they are always around us and won’t leave us. You carry your wife around in your hart all the time. And she knows this. 

How long is it since your wife passed away Newb . Mine is 8 weeks Monday. 

Stay strong and the feeling will return. 

Mike 

Hi Newb.

I can see how that would be hard. 

Personally I've never felt my husband around me since I lost him. I'd really like to sense him with me. 

Hi Andrea. I think sadness is part of our life now, but hopefully it will ease with time. You are bound to cry at work it is still such early days. It is good your manager and colleagues are supporting you. You have nearly one week done now, and you can rest for the weekend. 

I struggle some mornings to get out of bed , it doesn’t seem to get any easier. 

I start my part time job next week, so at least it will get me out of the house for a couple of hours a day. 

I haven'ttried getting a counselor yet , but it seems very hard to get one. I hope someone gets back to you. 

Hope today went ok at work. Talk later 

hugs and xx. 

Mike 

Hi Mike and all 

My father in law, tells me you never get used to losing your other half. You adjust to living alone. It's 5 years since he lost Jaynes mum and now to lose his daughter my wife. I can tell it's taken a toll on him. Luckily he will talk to me about it when I start the conversation as he is very reserved, much like his generation who grew up not expressing their feelings.

Adjusting to living alone, won't be the same as living with your soul mate. The future belongs to others, not me as I see it. 

Hopefully one day I might feel differently. 

Hi,

Is there anyone around?

I'm feeling awful. This feels like torture. It's not getting easier  and am wondering how much longer I can bear this pain.

Hi it is awful I know have you tried antidepressants they may help a little have for me

Hi Limbo. Mike here. You are not on your own. The last couple of days have been awful as well for me . I can’t seem to do anything except lye on the couch and think of past times. I have been on antidepressants for a week now but things seem worse now than before, maybe they will kick in soon. Because I can’t bear the pain and crying much more. I know we have to go through it but it just seems so endless. 

How long have you been on this horrible road. 

Thinking of you. 

Mike

Hi Limbo,

It does feel like a pain that will never end but with time you will begin to recall all the great times you had with your spouse and that will make it easier to bear. It is a long road but you will find sharing it with others help to make you feel less lonely. Find somebody you can talk candidly to, who will understand your pain whether they are a professional or a friend or relation. And do ignore all those people that give you a time limit, take your time your world has been turned upside down.

D