Struggling

Well done Andrea,

It sounds like your manager is going to be understanding. 

After my husband died I had all his affairs to sort out and as we had run a business together I had the weight of the tax people lighted upon my shoulders, and they don't give a toss.I can't tell you the number of times I received letters addressed to the 'representative' or the 'executor' only to be told they had to speak to my husband before they would speak about his tax issues. Once I got so annoyed I told a member of HMRC that I would post his ashes to her to prove he was dead, and she sent the police around to my house for threatening behaviour. The police were completely sympathetic when I showed them the letter.

As my Dad would say 'keep your chin up and keep going you'll get through it'

It probably doesn't feel that way at the moment but you are making headway

D

8. Weeks on Monday and things seem to be getting harder. 

I miss her so much. Mike 

Join the club I have been near to tears all day it seems to be getting worse each day 

 To Mike and Newbe sounds like you are both struggling today,and it’s understandable you have both lost People who were very special to you .Hope tomorrow is a little better for you.sending a hug.

Hi Mike and Newb 

8 weeks is very early and raw Mike. I'd like to say it gets slightly easier but it doesn't. It's 8 months now for me and now I'm over the shock, the reality is sinking in she's gone. I got in from work this morning and expected her to be stood in the door way. Just try to get through each day, I still am. I don't look any further forward than tomorrow.

When the tears come, let them. 

I'm welling up writing this. 

Feeling for you. 

Hi Newb 

Feeling for you. Let the tears flow, even though it's tiring. We've all become experts at crying our eyes out. 

One day at a time, 8 months for me and it's still one day at a time. 

Take care. 

Hi Mark, Mike, Newb and all, 

I have just been reading through the posts. Makes me cry seeing, everybody is sad and lonely and the days are just not getting easier for any of us. What have we done to deserve this? 

Thank you for all your responses. Today was my third day at work but it doesn't seem any  easier. Tiers every day. Fortunately my managers and colleagues are all supportive. I don't have to answer phone calls and only doing easy stuff that doesn't need much concentration . As am struggling to get up in the morning, i start at 10am instead of 8 am and finish arround 2 pm.

I stayed with a friend last night then i went to work from hers. We were chatting till about midnight. It was good and i felt better for a little bit. But then it just goes back to anxiety and pain. 

I still have found a counsellor. Emailed and rung one that is the closest to me, left voicemail, but haven't had a call back. This was recommended to me by a private medical insurance. I did not realise, its so difficult to get this type of support. 

I hope, we all get a good night sleep and wishing us all a brighter day tomorrow. 

Sending you all hugs

Andrea x

A friend of mine gave me St John wort herbal tablets which are supposed to eas low mood and depression. 

Has anyone been using it ?

Does it help or has it got side effects?

Thanks

Hi D

That's a horrible experience. I am glad, the policemen were understanding. This should not have happened. The HMRC should apologise to you. Its hard enough for you to cope with your loss. 

Take care

Hugs and xx

Andrea

Just a word of caution about St John's Wort. If you're on any other medications please check before taking them as they can interact. 

Can be helpful for some people.