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Oops sorry, message meant for `Letsgochamps` .

Its so hard everyday .im sorry for your loss maybeline ,  i just trying to take one day at a time .i take alot of medication for my anxiety and deppression ...but we where like two peas in a pod .we where moreless tied together ...she was everything and i was everything to her ...i keep getting flashbacks of that last night before she passed away ...thank you for your kind message and words message me anytime ,that goes for everyone .i guess supporting each other all together is a good thing to share and talk about our loved ones each day doesnt get easier it gets harder for me and probley for alot of other people too x

Hello Peter.  As you said it is definitely good to share your thoughts with all here who all understand as they have been through a similar loss and know something of what your feeling.  As for it getting worse, I think it comes in waves, sometimes calm and other times a tsunami.  Lots describe it as a roller coaster ride.  Just hang on and the waves and dips will get less and further apart. It just takes time so you are doing the right thing by taking one day at a time and if one day gets too much then take one hour, or one minute.  Just hang on Peter it will get easier.  You will never forget, but she will always be in your heart and mind.  Love Dolly xx

Thanks dolly her favourire colour was yellow so its nice when the sunshines .i often talk too her at night time and we both had teddy bears and i put my teddy in hee coffin and i have hers and it smellls so nice just of her ..she rebuilt me when she met me ten years ago its hard to try picture getting older without her around even tho shes always in my heart ..when everybody like my family n friends give up on me because i had mental health issues my wife just always said and understood me more than i understood myself .i just have to remember everything she taught me and live my life as if im living it for both of us as hard as heartbreaking as it is .thank you for messaging and your kind words it means alot . Love peter xx

I think our other halves shape us all and make us what we are today.  She sounds like a remarkable woman.  Do you have a garden.  Maybe plant something if you do.  A yellow rose, a forthythia or yellow primroses.  If no garden primroses will grow ok in a window box or hanging basket. Love Dolly xx

She loved sunflowers dolly so ive planted a few ..yes you our right our other halves do shape us and make us what we are today ...its just waiting now for my daughter to come back in my life .shes 12 in january and one day she will return when she has a mind of her own .my daughter was very close to wife and my wife was a great step mom to her as well as a friend .love peter xx

Hi I've been reading your thread and there's such lovely ideas and I'm glad you've planted something. I wondered if you had many photos I know some people do not feel this is for them. I have found some of my favourites and put them in an album. I hope you managed to get some support as I was quite concerned. 

It was really good to hear of the bond your wife had with your daughter I hope that can work out for you. Best wishes 

Her favourite colour was yellow so my house has transformed to yellow walls curtains went abit overboard but it makes me feel close to her i also play a recording of her voice saying night night which she sent me when she was in hospital .miss her so much thank you for your kindness xx

Hi Letsgochamp how are you getting on 

Mike 

I believe letsgochamp has left the forum so you might not get a reply.  I hope he is getting on ok though.  How are you doing.