Hello everyone, It is back in December that i last posted within this group but i do read most of your messages and offer prayers for your comfort. It is now almost 4 years since i lost my wife Jean after 52 years of marriage so i do understand your feelings of grief, your loss and feelings of despair. I recently viewed the following piece on Facebook and I am wishing to share it with you.
Grief, I've learned, is really just love.
It's all the love you want to give, but cannot.
All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes.
The lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest.
Grief is just love with no place to go.
In December i wrote that life is like a book, the first is written, full of memories, love and happy times. Not to be forgotten or hidden away but to be looked at with love and happiness. The response was so good that i am writing a shorter version here.
A second book starts after our loss and continues as we move forward in life. Some will find new partners, some may not or may not wish to. Whatever the future holds we must move forward. This is what our loved ones want, to see us moving forward with them in our hearts. and they will always be in our hearts. They do not wish us to be sad, unhappy and grieving for ever. They will be delighted to see us moving forward without guilt while keeping them dear in our hearts where they will be forever.
I hope this will provide food for thought and give hope for the future, a future full of happiness while moving forward but never forgetting the past.
Terry Jobling.
