My dad died 2 and a half years ago. Sometimes I feel "okay" but other days I still feel like I'm struggling.
My dad spent the last 4-5 weeks in a care home after he'd fallen at home and it was decided after a week in hospital that he couldn't go home again.
I don't remember thinking much about him moving into the care home at the time or feeling particularly sad about it. However, the last few weeks I have felt more sad and upset about it.
Any idea why I am feeling worse about that now, after 2 and a half years than I was when it actually happened? Has this sort of thing happened to anyone else?
Thanks for any advice or information you can help me with.
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