I lost my beloved dad to bowel cancer 3 weeks ago aged 76. I have so much guilt and and regret over his illness and that if I had done more he would still be here today. He had an emergency bowel resection in July 2024 when he was diagnosed and after about 6 weeks in hospital and 3 weeks in intensive physio he was home, I was so relieved as I though we would lose him in the surgery. We had an appointment with the oncologist about 12 weeks after the surgery, he confirmed the cancer was at stage 2 and his recommendation was that dad wasn't strong enough for chemo and it would have been better to start in within 6 weeks of the surgery. I keep thinking that if I had insisted on chemo dad would have been ok and we could have had a few more years with him.
