Hello I have very sadly just lost my Mum to gall bladder cancer .
She was taken into hospital on new years eve with suspected gall stones but was diagnosed with end stage cancer two days later.
Sadly they said chemo wouldn't be an option as too late.
A stent was inserted to help with pain.
She was sent home a month later and we organized care but my 84 year old Dad sadly couldn't cope with the in between times so hospice stepped in and she went into their 4 bed ward for roughly one week
It was so lovely and Mum seemed to be happier knowing she was being looked after and her pain was managed.
However we were told she couldn't stay indefinitely and maybe a care home would be able to take her in with 24 hour care.
We found one nearby and she was admitted.
She spent roughly 10 days there .
Her final 48 hours were awful ...terrible pain management she was in pain every time we were there and they took ages to attend to her .
They would leave food and drink for her by her bed but by this time she couldn't lift drinks herself and hadn't eaten for weeks.
Her last day was truly awful and my poor Dad had to witness his lovely wife in excruciating pain ...literally screaming.
Hospice intervened on the Monday and asked for a syringe driver to be given .
We called in on the Tuesday and it still hadn't been sorted.The nurses were so unatentive and didn't seem to know what to do.
Again so much pain and discomfort.
She passed away early Wednesday, we were told the syringe driver was due to be fitted that day ....too late!
Has anyone else experienced this ?
I am in total turmoil and can not let this rest.
The overwhelming feeling of letting her down is excruciating.
What can I do ?
