Hi All,
I lost my lovely Mum/best friend to breast cancer before Christmas. I’m just struggling to navigate this life without her.
My Mum was diagnosed 8 weeks prior to her passing with breast cancer which we soon found out had spread through her body, was first seen on her mammogram. 8 weeks to passing is no time at all. I feel so selfishly cheated. I can’t help but feel angry that she was taken from us so suddenly.
I have two young boys that miss their Nanny dearly, they saw her everyday. She was the best Nanny and loved being a Nanny.
I would appreciate any words, no matter how small.
Hello Jellycat87
You are so right, 8 weeks is such a short time, it’s natural you feel cheated and angry. Things probably all seem a blur since losing your mum up until now. Now will seem so much more difficult because as time moves on, we are forced to try and see things a little clearer, and this part of your future was not something you chose. You don’t need to find your way on your own, it might help to talk to someone. Do you have a Maggies centre near you, they have people you can speak with, also, the MacMillan site has access to people you can talk to.
Getting lots of cuddles from your beautiful boys will help you gain strength while you go through changes that grief brings. It might not seem it right now but you will find your way.
Love to you and your little boys xx
I’m so sorry. I don’t have anything to offer except I completely understand. I live in the U.K. but I’m from the USA. My mom got diagnosed with a reoccurrence of her breast cancer which had metastasised to her lungs in late January. We were told she had a year, but 2-3 years with treatment. I booked a flight for two weeks later. During those two weeks my mom and I were planning how we would make the most out of the time we had left together. The night before my flight we got told that her prognosis had changed and that she only had a few weeks and would be moved to hospice care. By the time I landed her prognosis had changed to just a few days. I had 11 hours with her before she died.
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