My friend had metastatic lung cancer that went to her brain and died on Sunday. We had been best friends for about 10 years and although she had cancer before, she had been in remission for 20 years. I had no experience of cancer and felt pretty helpless.and due to the tumour did not have a real conversation since May. I feel relief she is out of pain through to crippling tummy pain and stress. I am wondering how I will fill my time. Seeking advice from others. My favourite uncle been diagnosed with Lung cancer now and I just feel it will start all over again.
Hi scatlet
Sorry to read about your best friend, many struggle when anyone has a cancer diagnosis I know before it came to find my wife I found it difficult to relate to colleagues who had cancer and indeed many people with cancer choose not to tell others. Upcoming of course is likely to be the funeral, I have been to some really powerful services with a real celebration of a live well lived. At a friends funeral a little while back the celebrant said that grief is the price we pay for love and that really struck a chord with me.
I find some of the advice in your feelings when someone has cancer really quite helpful, being able to recognize the emotions and accept them as normal can help to make them less overwhelming. People sometimes say how do we cope and perhaps the best response we have is when did we get a choice.
<<hugs>>
Steve
