Does the physical grief ever end?

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I lost my dad 3 weeks ago to oesophageal cancer. I’m obviously devastated and feel like I’ve been grieving for months, but I had no idea about the physical effects. 

I’m exhausted all the time, nauseous, get headaches or stomach pain a lot etc. Sometimes it feels like it’ll never end. Anyone else experiencing similar? It’d be nice to know that I’m not alone in this xx 

  • Hi there, my husband passed on the 4th August from kidney cancer. The physical effects of grief have shocked me, as they are so intense. Me, my son and daughter have experienced, very upset stomachs, extreme fatigue, tension headaches, lack of concentration. Also, the unpredictability of it all. Add in the nightmares, flashbacks and sorrow and you have a real combination. You are not alone, it is so upsetting. Kind regards. 

  • Hi, I’m so so sorry for your loss. Thank you very much for your response, I’m sorry to hear that you’re also going through this, but it’s good to know that there are others out there that relate xxx 

  • I went through the same last year with my dad. Almost exactly a year. It is traumatic. I’ve written a post about it myself tonight. I’m sorry I’m not able to tell you it quickly passes. I’m still exhausted from probably the trauma of his illness and a year of difficult work around his estate. And looking after my mum. I wish we could give each other a hug.  

  • Not alone. My periods stopped for a while, I lost dad in June this year, i also had sickness and pain. I;ve had MRI scans and then on top had severe conjunctivitis - it really takes it out of you. I hope you have time to try to get some space to look after you. the whole thing is so traumatic :( Sending best wishes xxx

  • I lost my best friend on Sunday. I get crippling stomach pain and nausea. I have some gastric tablets to help and i'm swimming but it still comes 

  • Hi there, I believe the stomach pain is related to the grief you are experiencing. I did some research on the physical effects of grief on the body. Apparently, there is a direct corrolation from our thought processes to our stomach’s. It took about six weeks for mine to settle down. At the moment, I have a nasty cold. I am eight weeks in, and I think my body has taken a pounding, mentally and physically. It is so hard, as you don’t want to feel this way. Breathing exercises, and laying on the bed to rest when I could, helped. Sending you hugs and cuddles. Kate.