I miss my mom so much

So sorry for your loss. I understand. Lost my dad this year. I can only offer virtual hugs. But there are lots of us feeling the same. Cry and cry some more. It’s the only way. People tell me time makes things feel better. I hope it’s true. xx

It's so raw isn't it? ... all I can say really, as someone just going through this (my dad passed end of September, funeral mid October), is to just take one day at a time.  Sounds trite but it's true.  It's a stuggle some days just to get dressed by lunchtime, but do that and think 'that's a start'.  I made it my thing to get out every day (or near to) and just go for a walk.  Listen to podcasts.  Audio books are a good thing for me.  I'm lucky that exercise is my thing and I've continued going to my training during the week and the weekend, it's my escape for a couple of hours. 

Even making a batch cooking of food is an achievement, I used to LOVE cooking and I've just recently returned to that.  It takes my mind off things.  It's productive.  Also, it tastes damn good and better than eating 'just throw soemthing in the oven' all the time like I seem to have been doing these last 6 months.

Post on here, rant, post your thoughts, call the helpline (I've not done this yet.  It's a bit soon I think).

Journal.  Write down your thoughts, how you're feeling.  Even if it's 'god I feel crap today, all I've done is take the recycling out and I look like sh1t', at least it's something.   Then you could, say, write something like 'I feel numb. I was thinking of when mum did X, I really miss that' ... and yeah, you'll cry, like I've been doing, thinking of times with my Dad that will never return or be repeated ... and it hurts so damn much.  It's the only way to get through this. I don't think your mum or my Dad would want us to be like this forever, I don't think I will, or you ... we've just got to get through these dark times ( the crap weather and time of year don't help!), but it won't be all the time.  We'll continue, scarred and a bit wounded but we'll get there. 

Keep yer chin up chuck.

I am sorry for your loss too. It’s just this unimaginable pain. I think over time we just learn to live around the grief. 

thank you for the virtual hug. 

Beautifully put, I’d like to just hide myself away until the pain of grief feels bearable. One of my biggest issues is work, they don’t appear to care. I feel very alone and isolated. 

I just want to talk about my mom all day, sit in her craft room at their house to feel close to her. Be with my dad, just to be there so he isn’t lonely. Yet, I have to work, I have a husband and 2 kids. They are adults, but they still need me to a degree. 

This grief is different to the grief I felt when my Nan died 4 years ago. I think I am still in shock and denial. I just can’t get my head around the fact that my mom is not here. 

Hop you're doing OK today chuck 

Plodding along, just can’t get motivated. I just think about my mom every second of the day. 

Just take one day at a time chuck 

I am exactly the same.

I am sorry you feel the same. It’s such a hard place to be in. Just know you aren’t alone in how you feel. 

I am so sorry you are going through this. My mum is still with me but I know she has terminal cancer. I lost my dad 21 years ago when I was only 19. Now, I am losing my mum. I have no other family. I can only imagine the pain you are feeling right now. I am so sorry for your loss.

I dont have advice but please know I am sending you love x