Hi everyone, My mother-in-law died 9 years ago due to Breast Cancer. Raising our 4 year old daughter, we have always spoken about her Grandma and have pictures of her around the house.
In the past year she has been asking alot about her. We have been honest and age appropriate as we can, saying that she had germs in her body that the Drs at the hospital couldn't fix so she died. We haven't gone down the heaven route as we aren't religious and feel she may think that she would come back. She doesn't understand that although she has died, she can't ring her or go to see her. She also says that she misses her although she hasn't met her.
Is there anything anyone would recommend in terms of explaining why she can't see her and questions? How have others dealt with this?
Thank you
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