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I'm so sorry for your loss, be kind to yourself and take the time you need x

I’m so sorry for your loss, and so sad to hear how quickly everything has happened for you and your family. It’s no real positive to hear they’re not in pain anymore but I guess it’s true. 

Take as much time as you need, I’m not sure if it ever really processes? Maybe we just learn to live with the grief. I’ve found a lot of comfort in the poems via Donna ashworth. Thoughts are with you xx

I'm so sorry. What a rollercoaster for you all. Last year my dad (78) was diagnosed with cancer on the same day as my husband (53), and I was with them both at their appointments when the diagnosis was given. What a day that was !!!. Then to top it off my mum died a few months later. Thankfully my dad is doing well and I love him dearly, but my husband sadly passed away 4 weeks ago. Life can be very hard, but I so cherish the 18 months post diagnosis that my husband and I and our 2 boys had together. He stayed positive to the end and was such a joy to be with throughout. He was 54 when he passed away and we met when I was 13 and he was 14. We were happily married for 28 years and he was truly the love of my life. Cancer is such a horrendous disease and it sees no boundaries. We tried every supplement from turkey tail mushrooms to wheat grass and many inbetween. But when you have stage 4 cancer you might not believe it (as we didn't) but the future is bleak no matter what you try. I hope you can take a little consolation in knowing that although your mum's cancer journey was extremely short, she didn't suffer for long. We stayed optimistic for 18 months, but to no avail. Chris was given 1 year to 18 months and we buried him 18 months later to the exact day. Like you, I know nothing will ever be the same again but it's important to try to cherish all the wonderful times you shared together. Positivity breeds postivity, so moving forward try to embrace the good things that come your way. That's exactly what our loved ones would have hoped for.

Sending big hugs xx

PS I forgot to mention we did embrace all the conventional treatments too. Chemo, Immuno. etc. and the NHS were truly amazing. We cannot thank them all enough. xx

Thank you so much for your reply, and I'm sorry it took me so long to respond in turn. I really appreciate you commenting and sending well wishes x

Thank you for your note and I'm sorry it took me so long to respond. I do really appreciate your note and will take a look at those poems x

I'm so sorry for your loss but how wonderful that your husband could stay positive and you had that time together. I really appreciate your note, thank you so much. All the best to you and your family xx

Thank you so much. Wishing you and your family every future happiness.

You don’t move on after loss, but you must move with. You must shake hands with grief, welcome her in, for she lives with you now. Pull her a chair at the table and offer her comfort. She is not the monster you first thought her to be. She is love. And she will walk with you now, stay with you now, peacefully. If you let her. And on the days when your anger is high, remember why she came, remember who she represents. Remember. Grief came to you my friend because love came first. Love came first. 

DONNA ASHWORTH