My mum was diagnosed at the beginning of April, and was told she had 4 to 6 months. Sadly she passed away after 6 weeks. It has left such a huge void in my life as we were so close and I was caring for her right up until the end. Its 3 weeks come Saturday since she passed, some days I'm fine then other days the slightest thing sets me off. I lost my Dad 17 years ago to cancer, but with my Mum the grief feels different and I find it hard to explain
Hi Ginger48,
My name is Matthew, and I’m from Macmillan’s Online Community Team. I’d like to wish you a very warm welcome to the Online Community, and to say thank you for sharing a little bit about what brought you to the site. We hope you will find the Online Community a warm and supportive place to be.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. Three weeks is a very short period of time, so it is completely understandable that you would be having a mixture of good days and sad days. Just remember that there is no right or wrong way to feel while grieving, and there is no standard length of time it takes for a person to begin healing. Be kind to yourself during this time, and take the time to feel however you feel.
I know you mentioned you were very close with your mum, and that you were caring for her right up to the end. Caring for a loved one can be very demanding physically and emotionally. Alongside talking to other Community members here, you might find it helpful to talk to someone from Macmillan in a more private setting. Our Macmillan Support Line teams are here for you, if you ever just need to talk. They’re available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.
Outside of Macmillan, you may find it especially helpful to talk to Cruse Bereavement Support, a charity dedicated to helping help people through the challenges experienced during times of grief. You can contact Cruse directly on 0808 808 1677.
If you feel like you could benefit from some face-to-face support, you might like to consider checking out the At A Loss website. You can use their search feature to find local bereavement services close to you. They also offer Griefchat, a free online chat service that connects you to a trained grief counsellor. It’s available Monday to Friday, 9am to 9pm.
I hope the above information is helpful. If you need any tips on using our Online Community site, please check out our Help Pages. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us in the Online Community Team. You’re welcome to send us an email at community@macmillan.org.uk, or you can send a private message to the Moderator account.
Macmillan and the Online Community are all here if you need us, Ginger48. Just reach out, and we’ll be happy to help.
All the best,
Matthew
Macmillan Online Community Team
