Lost our dad

I feel for you. My mother passed away in September 2022 after a long struggle she was diagnosed in January 2022. I am struggling with it and my dad passed away January 2022 which was terrible for my mum and us as a family. You need time to heal and you must take time off go to your doctor and get some time off you may need counseling. I haven't even had that yet although I returned to work part time but was off during my mum's illness. Go easy on yourself.

I'm so sorry to hear you have lost not one but both your parents in such a short amount of time! The pain is unmeasurable! I'm so sorry. It's such an awful thing to try and get your head around. I am going to see the Dr and try to talk to someone. Maybe you need to do that too?! Sending you lots of love. 

Such a terrible time I do need to speak to someone. I dream about them all the time. I wish you well with your healing ️

Oh sweet. It's comforting in a way that we know we aren't the only ones going through it. I'm here if you ever need to talk. Thank you for replying to my post.

Hi, I am kinda going through the same as you, and finding it extremely tough.  I lost my dad a week before Christmas, he was seemingly well, apart from losing weight, up until the end of October.  Then we had a couple of Ambulance call outs and he was diagnosed.  From the appointment with the oncologist where they said dad couldn't be treated to him passing was two weeks.  Those two weeks were horrendous and all I keep hearing in my head is my dad struggling with different breathing patterns, and visions of him so distraught as he too didn't want to leave us.  I have taken time off from work, and have yet to go back.  I feel I am not in the right mindset to go back yet.  Everything has happened so fast and I think I am still in shock tbh.  Take time off from work, your mental health is important.  Always here to reply if you need a chat. x

• Hi, im so sorry to hear you have lost your dad too! We found out in August and I struggled to get my head around it all, so for you to experience it all two weeks I can't even imagine! I really feel for you!  Today's not been a great day, no day is good at the minute but today has been really hard, I just can't accept that I'm never going to see him again. It's so cruel. Thank you for replying and I'm here also if you just want to chat. X

It's all such a s**t show I have to say!  It really is a struggle isn't it.  I am the same, wake every morning just hoping it is all a bad dream, then reality hits.  It is so cruel, I'm struggling with why good people end up with this happening to them?!?  It all makes no sense to me.  X

It's annoying! I agree,  the good people get taken from us, they didn't deserve it at all. It's a hard thing to get your head around. And it upsets me that the world keeps going and people are living their lives and my dad isn't here to live his. When he should be. I think because he was so positive about it all and always kept doing what he normally did, even the day before all this happened he told the nurses on the phone he was fine! And he wasn't. It's a hard time to go through, people think you should just get on with your life etc but it's not as easy as that, we have a new life we have to adjust to, things will never be the same and that takes time to come to terms with and I think unless you've experienced it you don't really understand! X

Hi all, so sorry to hear about your experiences. We found out about my dad in July, 6 weeks before he passed away at the end of August. He deteriorated very quickly and myself and my mum nursed him at home - we experienced him going through some really awful things that have stayed with me. He passed away 4 months ago and i have been back in work for 2 months. Things have got easier in the sense that my 'sad days' and flashbacks are less but they do still come out of nowhere at times which is hard. Its a struggle trying to continue with day to day life and keep up an outward appearance, when sometimes i can be completely overwhelmed with everything. Today has been a really hard day which is how i have ended up finding this forum. Thank you for posting so honestly and for sharing your experience so i don't feel so alone in this. Keep going x