Losing my dad

Hello Csy

Welcome to the forum, it can be difficult to write your first post on a forum.

I am truly sorry to read that you lost your Dad to cancer 2 days ago, and that you are worried that you have not cried or got upset, but I think that sometimes we are more prepared for the loss of a loved one, than we really know.

This year I have lost both my Dad and my Brother in Law to cancer and my emotions have been very steady, I certainly was less emotional than I thought I would be at the loss of my Dad who was such a special person in my life, I miss him desperately, I talk to him daily and I know, that in the end, he needed to pass.  The same to be said of my Brother in Law, other than he was so much younger, and his experience of cancer was so much more intense and in some ways cruel.

How we grieve is different for all of us and different again for the many people we will lose in our lifetime, there is no right or wrong way.

In the coming days and weeks you may experience different emotions, they may never be what you had imagined, but the way you grieve will be the best way for you.

Once again, I am sorry for your loss 

Lowe'

Hi I was similar,  my dad died at the end of July after being diagnosed for only 3 weeks so it was a whirlwind and he deteriorated so quickly.  Afterwards it felt like a relief because he had suffered a lot in that time and honestly its only now 3 weeks later that I'm starting to struggle with the loss.

Your mind is probably trying to protect you from the pain and shutting down your emotions until you can process them. 

Its also a busy time, people to tell, things to arrange, lots of questions to answer and maybe you just need to wait to be able to take a breath.

Don't worry about how you should feel as you will work through it in your own way.

This happened to me when my wife died. For the first couple of days I was too focused on all the things that needed to be done to feel anything. It was only after two weeks that I'd got everything arranged, and I was at a loose end, that it really hit me. That's when I decided to go back to work, having something to do helped a lot.