I lost my wonderful, amazing, brave dad in December 2020. He was 60 years old.
Due to covid, my dad wasn't able to do a lot of the things he had planned over the last year of his life. For Christmas 2019, my parents got lots of experiences as presents, as by then his cancer had been made terminal and people wanted to treat him. He and my mum also had lots of holidays planned for 2020. We are now looking at these wonderful event my dad never got a chance to do and they make me so cross. It's not fair that for the last year of his life my dad was stuck at home, unable to see friends and family as freely and unable to do all these lovely things. Its not fair that I was concerned over giving him a god dam hug because as he had lung cancer, he was a high risk if he caught it and I didn't want to be the one who gave my dad covid-freaking-19.
On top of this, since his death, my beautiful wonderful mum has still be restricted by covid 19. People wanting to wish their condolences haven't been able to do it in person. Dads funeral was literally only family with no wake. I know there are so many people who would have been there if allowed. He deserved a big ass funeral with EVERYONE and people deserved a chance to say goodbye. Mum has booked a pub for their wedding anniversary date and is hoping to do a memory event for dad to give people the chance to pay their respects.
I am still cross though.
I hear on the news that people have been really frustrated by covid and I know it hasn't been easy on anyone BUT Think of all our poor relatives and friends who have had precious time taken away from them. Think of all the life changing medicine that may have been delayed or put on hold due to covid. Think of my poor dad who didn't want to spend the last year of him life stuck inside, restricted and alone.
Its not fucking fair.
Hi Vee_123 I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad. I understand how you feel. I lost 2 family members during the pandemic. Because I was shielding myself, I didn't see either of these family members during their final months. I also was unable to go to their funerals and had to watch them online. It is a very strange feeling, I still do not believe that either of them have passed, as I have been unable to grieve in the normal way.
You are bound to be angry with the world right now. I have had to take a step away from all my social media, because of peoples attitude to covid. A lot of my friends and family have lived a very different life to me this past year. Even though restrictions are easing, I am still very much living a shielded life. Many of my friends do not understand my reason for this, so I have lost friends too.
It is lovely that you will all be getting together for a memory event, but I am sure that will be extra painful for your mum knowing it is their anniversary. I hope this day helps to heal some of the pain you are feeling from not having a wake.
Sending you strength for the weeks ahead. Take care of yourself and your mum x
