Feeling so isolated

FormerMember
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Hey everyone. 

Sorry to be rambling on, I realise that i've posted a fair bit here recently, and it's silly of me to think but I always fear, that everyone has their own grief to deal with, but i also just appreciate being able to write down how I feel each time i'm posting. 

It's been 2 months since my Gran gained her angel wings, and was reunited with my Grandad. However we have recently been tidying out her house, and I think i thought it would take a lot longer and I would be able to go back and forth for a lot longer than we have. We are getting to the end now and it will soon be getting sold, this has really set me back in grieving process, as there are so any memories in that house. 

I keep telling myself, it's only bricks and mortar and it was my Grandma and my family that made it a home, and the memories will never fade, and no one can take that away from me. 

We found my Grandma's diaries that she had been keeping for 7 years, and it's so nice reading them, like she gave us this gift, of her life since 2012. 

Sorry i'm just rambling on, just i've found myself feeling really low recently, like everything is getting on top of me, and its so hard to keep saying i'm fine, especially dealing with my depression, and my one rock has gone, she always used to make me feel better. 

Hope x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Sorry that meant to say, It's silly of me to think that everyone will get annoyed with me for keep posting, 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Hope,

    You can post here anytime this is what the site is for and you're certainly not rambling on. 

    I wanted to reply because I wrote something similar a few months back when we were in the process of clearing out my mother's house, my childhood home, and also my mother's. We had lived in the house for four generations so a lot of memories and lots of our family history all one place.  So I can understand how hard it is for you to be in this position now. My heart goes out to you.

    I felt like and in fact still do that I had lost the one safe comfortable place where we would all go no matter what.  You'd always know where to find me because I would be in my mothers or to my kids in Granma's.  Never once did they say that they didn't want to go there.   I still don't know how we managed to clear all of her things out, in fact we kept pretty much all of it apart from furniture.  Thinking back it's all a haze.  I still haven't ventured past my mother's house nine months on and I don't think I ever will be able to.

    You are right nothing or nobody can take those happy memories away from you and you will forever treasure these special times.  I think now my mother's house would certainly not have been the same without her, for she was the reason we would spend all our time there.  For her loving warm welcome that would always await us no matter if we turned up announced or unannounced.  Hours spent in a familiar comfort more so even than my own home.

    How lovely that you have your Grandma's diaries so very special.  I'm sure you will treasure those always.

    Take Care and I wish you the best x x x